When someone you care about is fighting an addiction, you are down in the trenches with them.
As the more present and aware person in the relationship, you likely
notice changes that your loved one doesn’t and see the warning signs
that addiction treatment is necessary.
It is rare for someone who lives in active addiction to agree that they even have a serious substance use disorder, much less that they need to stop using drugs and alcohol and enroll in a drug rehab program.
The good news is that you can play an important role in helping your loved one to recognize these facts and assist them in the process of finding the right addiction treatment services for their needs.
In many cases, family members unwittingly play a role in the continuation of their loved one’s addiction. How is that possible?
Simply by doing things, large and small, that help to buffer them from the consequences of drug and alcohol use.
Though the idea that they might be aiding their loved one’s addiction is upsetting to most, it is often the support they provide that sends the message to their addicted family member that there are no real risks associated with drug addiction. For example, any of the following choices essentially shield your family member from managing the responsibilities of everyday life and makes drug use seem less dysfunctional:
Rather than making it easier for them to continue drinking or getting high, you can be a positive support by:
In the context of a casual conversation, it is rare that someone living with addiction will agree that treatment is necessary or follow through on getting help if they do acknowledge that treatment is needed. Often, it can take a more structured conversation in the form of an intervention — a meeting that includes your addicted loved one and other concerned family members, which solely focuses on helping your loved one enter a drug rehab program right away.
Many families decide to hire an interventionist to help them with the planning process, run the intervention itself, and in some cases, accompany their loved one to the treatment program. Having an interventionist on board can:
Start now. The sooner you begin the process of connecting your loved one with treatment, the sooner they can stop dealing with all the risks that come with active addiction.
Call (833) 917-0368 now to speak with one of our addiction specialists about which of our treatment programs is best for you or your loved one or contact us online for more information.
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